What are some signs of spiritual abuse, and how should I respond?

from the old testament

• Spiritual abuse occurs when someone exploits their position or God’s name to control or harm others. The prophets addressed this issue by condemning leaders who took from the people rather than caring for them. God said, “Ah, shepherds of Israel who have been feeding yourselves! Should not shepherds feed the sheep? You eat the fat, you clothe yourselves with the wool, you slaughter the fat ones, but you do not feed the sheep. The weak you have not strengthened, the sick you have not healed, the injured you have not bound up, the strayed you have not brought back, the lost you have not sought, and with force and harshness you have ruled them” (Ezekiel 34:2–4). Israel’s leaders were using their spiritual knowledge to take advantage of the people. This kind of behavior is still happening today.
• Spiritual abuse also occurs when human rules are exalted as if they were given by God, leading people to try to restrict or control others in ways that God never intended. Rebuking people who claimed to love God but did not, “the Lord said: ‘Because this people draw near with their mouth and honor me with their lips, while their hearts are far from me, and their fear of me is a commandment taught by men’” (Isaiah 29:13). That is, their “fear” (obedience) of God was not based on what He said, but on what men claimed He said. Because man-made rules focused solely on external behavior, the Israelites obeyed outwardly—as if that pleased God—spiritually decaying as a result.
• When accusations of internal abuse occurred, the law provided a way for the truth to be determined and wrongs to be fairly confronted. Charges required multiple witnesses, preventing both false accusations and unchecked wrongdoing (Deuteronomy 19:15). Justice was meant to be impartial, defending the weak without showing favoritism (Deuteronomy 16:19–20). This system reflected God’s own character, who judges with righteousness and protects those who cannot defend themselves.
• God’s people also faced spiritual abuse from outsiders determined to destroy their faith. When King Nebuchadnezzar commanded everyone to worship his golden image, Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego refused to bow (Daniel 3:12–18). They trusted that God could deliver them but were willing to suffer rather than deny Him. Their courage under pressure demonstrates how God’s people endure persecution without compromise, trusting Him for justice even at significant cost.
• Daniel himself demonstrated how God’s people are to live even under corrupt leadership. When officials conspired against him, he refused to compromise his devotion to God, continuing his regular prayers even under threat of death (Daniel 6:4–11). He acted with integrity, sought no revenge, and trusted God to vindicate him. His example shows how wisdom, courage, and steadfast trust can guide believers through external spiritual harm and reveal God’s righteousness in unjust situations.

from the new testament

• Spiritual abuse within the church happens when authority is used for control or personal gain instead of genuine care. Jesus warned against leaders who sought status and power rather than humble service, teaching that “whoever would be great among you must be your servant” (Mark 10:43). Peter later urged elders to shepherd “not domineering over those in your charge, but being examples to the flock” (1 Peter 5:3). Since leadership has significant influence, Scripture warns that teachers “will be judged with greater strictness” (James 3:1), reminding all leaders that spiritual authority is a trust to be exercised with humility and accountability.
• Legalism is another form of spiritual abuse where man-made rules replace the grace of the gospel. Jesus condemned teachers who “tie up heavy burdens, hard to bear, and lay them on people’s shoulders” (Matthew 23:4), exposing religion that values performance over mercy. Paul also said that “false brothers” infiltrated the church “to bring us into slavery” (Galatians 2:4), reminding believers that “for freedom Christ has set us free” (Galatians 5:1). When human standards judge obedience, consciences become burdened and joy diminishes.
• The New Testament also provides examples of how believers should respond when spiritual abuse occurs within the church. Paul advised Timothy and Titus to confront false teachers, silence divisive voices, and correct with gentleness (1 Timothy 5:19–21; Titus 1:10–13). Jesus outlined a process that begins privately and becomes more public only when sin remains unrepentant (Matthew 18:15–17). These steps ensure that truth is pursued carefully with the aim of correction and restoration.
• Externally, the church faces spiritual abuse through persecution. For example, Peter and John were ordered to stop preaching. That is, the Jewish leaders wanted to restrict their spiritual obedience. They replied, “We must obey God rather than men” (Acts 5:29). They suffered beating and shame for Christ’s name but rejoiced that they were counted worthy to suffer for Him (Acts 5:40–41). Their response models courage under pressure and loyalty to the gospel despite opposition.
• The New Testament advises how to respond to persecution. Jesus told His followers to love their enemies and pray for them (Matthew 5:44). Peter encouraged believers not to be surprised by fiery trials but to trust in God while continuing to do good (1 Peter 4:12–19). During such times, the church becomes a refuge of comfort and strength (1 Thessalonians 5:11), reminding believers that every wrong will eventually be made right by the righteous Judge who sees all (Romans 12:19).

implications for today

When those in spiritual authority misuse their power, God calls His people to trust Him rather than despair. His Word is sufficient to expose deception and strengthen discernment. By testing every teaching against Scripture, believers can distinguish truth from error and reject distortions of the gospel. When leaders fail, God remains faithful. His Spirit helps believers stand firm, seek truth, and walk with integrity even when those they once trusted do not.

When mistreated or rejected for following Christ, believers are called to cling to the Lord who suffered for them. He understands every injustice and promises to reward patient endurance. Trials that seem unbearable become opportunities to show faith in the God who provides comfort in suffering and vindication in His time. Though persecution wounds deeply, it cannot undo the security of belonging to Christ or the hope of His coming justice.

If mistreatment, whether from inside or outside the church, involves physical harm, sexual misconduct, or coercion to do wrong, believers should immediately report it to lawful authorities. God established civil government to restrain evil and protect the innocent. Reporting such behavior is not a lack of faith; it is an act of righteousness that upholds His standards of justice. Whenever possible, trusted elders or church leaders should be involved in that process so that protection, counsel, and healing can begin under God’s care.